One of the things I’ve been struggling with in my professional career
is being the “yes” girl when at times, I clearly should have said “no”. I am
one of those people- pleasers, trying to satisfy every need if I could. I was
politely told in one of my project meetings that sometimes being too agreeable can
be seen as a negative instead of a positive. Many times I would take on too
many projects because I was eager to show I can get them done, but wasn’t
producing in a timely manner. Here are a few ways that this could have been avoided:
- I could have just declined the assignment, explaining there were too many things already on my plate, OR
- I could have accepted the assignment, but only doing so with a more realistic deadline.
The first step is realizing that this is an issue in the first place.
We must all learn what our strengths and weaknesses are. Just as in my professional
life, I was in my personal life. There were many relationships that I should
have said “no” to, but didn’t. Looking back on those, I now realize what a
waste of time it was. Many times I would say “yes” to a guy who wanted to date
me, but I honestly had no real interest or knew that it wasn’t going to last
long….so why did I agree?? Sometimes I didn’t want to hurt his feelings because
he was a pretty nice guy. Yes, silly me. Other times I just said “yes” because
I was bored and didn’t want to be alone at the moment. And even worse, I would
continue to say “yes” because the situation was comfortable and I didn’t want
to mess up good connections or benefits. It’s the truth! But what I encourage
you as young women and men, is to say “no” when you know you should. Don’t say “yes”
because it’s good for someone else. Don’t get yourself caught up in a
relationship that isn’t meant to be because you’re tired of waiting….just be
patient. Don’t say “yes” out of fear.
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